Love Is Not Enough

The one question that will change the focus of your marriage

Falling in love is not hard…but love is not enough to keep a marriage healthy. Some people learn that truth, and sear it in their mind. Others ink it into their skin, where it will be a constant reminder. And if I could help couples understand that you can love someone, but not be compatible, […]

Their music is phenomenal…here’s a short clip talking about their marriage.

Abner–“relationship’s about communication. There’s something at the end of the day we’re fighting for. There’s going to be disagreements, just like in songwriting. But at the end of the day we’re on the same team for a greater good and a greater purpose.”

I’m glad you’re here.

What is most important to you? MOST people would say their relationships–spouse, children, friends, family–are far more important than their job or social commitments.  Yet somehow Life can take over, and these very relationships get neglected. Healthy relationships take some work. Sometimes it can be hard and messy. Sometimes we feel like giving up. And […]

Two Things to Remember When Marriage is Hard

Marriage is that relationship that becomes comfortable over time, like your favorite pair of jeans or shoes that are broken in just so. With that comfort, though, is an alternate reality–familiarity can breed contempt. The things we say to our spouse out of anger or frustration sometimes are things we would NEVER say to a […]

My Five Husbands

I have been married to at least 5 different men, and loved each one more than the last. Now, before you compare me to Elizabeth Taylor…let me just clarify…I have only been married once, but he has evolved, as have I, over the course of 36 years. Idealistic seminarian The first man was the idealistic […]

The Secret to Your Man’s Heart

We sat across from each other at our favorite lunch spot, happy to have a little face time, just the two of us. Three kids with multiple schedules and each of us running our own businesses left little time for uninterrupted conversation in those days. I thought it was just any old lunch, but this day proved […]

For the newlyweds (What I wish we’d known then)

There’s something wistful about seeing newly weds. Their relationship is fresh and new–their whole future is before them.  I wouldn’t go back to those days, but I do wish we had known some things that we learned the hard way. It’s hard to give advice to engaged or newly married couples, because they are convinced […]

Have You Reviewed the State of Your Union?

Continuing on the theme of resolutions/goals, I have a question for those of you that are married.  How would you rate the “state of your Union” on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being “couldn’t be any better”? I recently asked my guy of 36 years, and there was a long pause. “OK, awkward pause, honey.” […]

The Secret to Keeping a Resolution

The calendar has just turned to a new year, and I am curious…have you made any resolutions? I have been asking people this for the past few years, and very few have responded with specific goals or desires for the coming year. Most people just shrug, or say, “Nah, resolutions never work” as if it […]