As a trained and formerly licensed therapist who understands the limitations of relationship coaching as well as the proud wife of a serial entrepreneur for 40+ years, I have two things I'd dare to say very few others in this industry can offer you:
accountability + Experience
Why Choose Lodestar?
I don't want to discount the experience offered by my younger comrades. But there's something to be said about meeting with a coach who has solid practice and the life experience to back it up. When I married Mark 40+ years ago, I had no idea I was marrying an entrepreneur! Heck, we didn't even know what that word meant 40 years ago, but I knew I was marrying a dreamer. If there's anything my marriage has taught me, it's that the lives of those who want a successful marriage AND business are full of unique challenges and celebrations. One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself and your marriage is the time-tested insights of those who had made that journey ahead of you.
And don't forget my 40 years of life experience!
...In addition to the 3000 hours of supervision required for California licensure, I completed 18 months of advanced couples therapy training supervised by a licensed psychologist to ensure my competence as a marriage specialist. While I love the freedom that coaching affords me, it is a bit disconcerting that anyone who desires to become a relationship coach can do so without any formal training, accountability, or oversight. It would be all too easy for a highly motivated opportunist to take advantage of a couple seeking help and transformation in their marriage.
Unlike other coaches...
...I am not limited to a specific service area and have the honor of working with clients all over the country!
If you feel that Lodestar is the right choice for you, no regional licensures are in your way to keep you from participating in all that Lodestar Relationship Coaching has to offer you through a video session or our growing online resource library.
Unlike traditional therapists...
...I know all-too-well the pros, cons, advantages, and limitations of traditional therapy.
I have seen first-hand the transformative power that therapy can offer which is why if I discern therapy is in the best interest of one of my clients, I will recommend therapy as their primary treatment plan.
Unlike traditional therapy, however, I have a heart to partner with couples who want to face future-forward, learn something new, and want to take a functional marriage to a vibrant and thriving marriage others will be envious of!
As a previously licensed therapist...
Lodestar
Fills
the Gap
- Foreward-facing, casting vision to what might be possible based on what you've learned about yourself and your partner.
- No governing oversight or formal training required to become a coach.
- Primary focus is empowerment, both for you individually and as a cohesive unit to tackle every opportunity life has to offer, together!
Relationship Coaching
Relationship Coaching
- Often rear-facing, attempting to address the root of past traumas, worldviews, and strongholds in your marriage.
- Fully-accountable to a governing agency who maintains accountability & licensure.
- Primary focus is recovery and offering preventative mental health strategies which can help to heal and maintain a healthy marriage trajectory.
Traditional Therapy
Traditional Therapy
Don't settle for either/or when you can experience Both/And
Therapy v/s Coaching
It would be an honor to partner with you!
An entrepreneurial marriage is one with many ups and downs, momentous victories, and the occasional regrets. Mark and I made a decision a long time ago that our marriage would never be one of those regrets.
While our many business ventures over the years have led us through remarkable successes and stumbling blocks, our marriage brought forth a beautiful life and family we couldn't have imagined in those early years. And I want the same for you!
Entrepreneurship and other high-achiever pursuits can create added challenges in marriage.. Little did you know that when you landed on this website, you met a friend and partner who wants every bit of joy, peace, excitement, and friendship that marriage has to offer because that is what I've experienced in my own!
A multi-passionate wife, mom, Mimi, coach, christian, podcaster, speaker, and marriage enthusiast
Hi, I'm Kathy!
A personalized, 90-minute, mini workshop to identify each person’s “wiring” and provide tools and tips for communication that connects. The takeaway is a solid sense of “US” with actionable communication tools you will use immediately.
Building on Uniquely Us, this 3-month track provides a framework and tools for busy couples who want to safeguard their relationship.
Relationship Renewal
If the occasional sessions aren't enough to move the needle forward in your relationship, consider a 4-hour intensive where all distractions are removed, and we get to the root of what's going on.
Relationship
Turnaround
Services Offered
I strive to serve you and your partner as effectively as possible which is why I've specifically curated three unique and personalized services to get you started towards progress. Click below to explore my available offerings or contact me today to request additional information.
Uniquely Us
Is it time for a relationship tune-up? Maybe your marriage is in transition—a new baby, new job, empty nest, or retirement—and you feel out of step with each other. You might just need a few sessions to reconnect and get back on track.
À La Carte Coaching Session
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If the occasional sessions aren't enough to move the needle forward in your relationship, consider a 4-hour intensive where all distractions are removed, and we get to the root of what's going on.
Relationship Turnaround
Learn more
Building on Uniquely Us, this 3-month track provides a framework and tools for busy couples who want to safeguard their relationship.
Relationship Accelerator
Learn more
A personalized, 90-minute, mini workshop to identify each person’s “wiring” and provide tools and tips for communication that connects. The takeaway is a solid sense of “US” with actionable communication tools you will use immediately.
Uniquely Us
Learn more
Is it time for a relationship tune-up? Maybe your marriage is in transition—a new baby, new job, empty nest, or retirement—and you feel out of step with each other. You might just need a few sessions to reconnect and get back on track.
À La Carte Coaching Session
We strive to serve you and your partner as effectively as possible which is why we've specifically curated three unique and personalized services to get you started towards progress. Click below to explore our available offerings or contact us today to request additional information.
Services Offered
Our meeting with Kathy was a pivotal moment in our lives. We felt stuck and couldn’t make a decision regarding our next steps. Kathy’s unique knowledge of entrepreneurship and marriage helped us see our situation in a new light. We’ve had more peace and direction since our initial meeting with Kathy.
couples coaching
Daniel & Amanda Espinoza
After becoming parents this year, we wanted to check in with a marriage coach and build on our solid marriage. Our sessions with Kathy were enlightening and helpful. We really appreciate her probing questions, and the framework and tools that she provided us with. We found them easy to remember and apply on a daily basis to improve our communication and connectedness. As we navigate our new roles, Kathy's guidance has left us feeling more aligned and in sync than ever before.
couples coaching
Rebecca & Ben Kushner
When the entrepreneurial journey is such an ever-present part of our marriage and family, it's hard to figure out what healthy communication with my wife should look like. The business demands can easily consume everything. Because Mark and Kathy have walked a similar path, I've learned from their example of how to be more balanced and intentional in building up my marriage.
couples coaching
Brad & Jooyoung Voeller
Scott and I did the personality profiles and it was so helpful to understand how we're wired... especially since our styles are very different. We both tend to get lost in our thoughts, which can make us seem unapproachable to each other and our kids. That was a blind spot for me. Kathy did a wonderful job interpreting our results (without judgment!) and coached us on how to recognize and respond to each others' styles.
uniquely us
Jen and Scott Selverian
You deserve to know exactly who will be coming alongside you in your marriage and business. Is anything keeping you on the fence about booking an initial consultation? If so, please send a message below with any questions or concerns you might be experiencing so that I can help you discern whether Lodestar is the right choice for you and your partner.