Does Your Marriage Have a Trusted Advisor?

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Many believe that the rate of divorce is higher in entrepreneur marriages, though statistics are hard to find. If there is something to learn from those who have experienced divorce, let us learn from their lessons. Startups affect the whole family I sat down with Luke (identity changed for privacy), an entrepreneur whom I met […]

Three Questions to Quickly Create Marriage Goals

I know some people like to create elaborate systems to set and track goals (think, bullet journal—stresses me out just thinking about keeping up with 6 different colored pens). But if you want a QUICK way to get some momentum going in your marriage, this is for you. I came across this great tool here–thank […]

Happy Marriages Have This In Common

I have a challenge for you that want a happy marriage. An alternative this season to the lure of the incessant advertisers and retailers, trying to convince us we don’t already have what we need to be happy. What would our lives be like if we practiced gratitude as a regular habit? More specifically, what if […]

Learning the Language of Love

Healthy Marriage Habits, Habit 4

Of all the habits we might develop to have a healthy marriage, loving our spouse seems like it would be the easiest, right? Love brought us together, so why should it be something we have to pay attention to? I once had a client inform me,  “I told my wife I loved her the day […]

What Driver’s Ed Taught Me About Marriage

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It is impossible to love someone perfectly. Harder yet to love “til death do us part.” The habits that couples develop have much to do with whether the marriage ends up “for better or for worse.” This is the first installation of monthly challenges that will help create healthy habits in your marriage. Many troubled […]

How to Ask For Change In Marriage

“For better or worse” or some version, are the words most couples promise when they say “I do”. However, this doesn’t mean that we never ask for change in marriage. If iron sharpens iron, and we stretch to become a better version of ourselves through marriage, then something will be changing. Happily married couples often […]

Habits of Healthy Relationships

The Good Marriage Challenge

We are creatures of habit. Habits can be helpful.  Creating a morning routine can shave time off your day when you don’t have to think about what comes next. Some habits evolve out of laziness–like leaving dirty clothes wherever they fall, to be picked up only when you run out of clean underwear. Lazy habits […]

The importance of time alone together

Getting back to just the two of you

Sometimes you CAN judge a book by it’s cover. This one, tattered from years of rereading, was a gift I have treasured for 30 years. Some may only know of Charles Lindbergh, the famous aviator. However, his wife, Anne Morrow Lindbergh, was a gifted writer. This little book, written on a two week retreat in […]

How To Have a SMART Marriage, Starting Today

The miracle question that will change your focus

“Hey, honey, how would you rate our marriage, on a scale of 1-10?” I asked as we were hiking. Long pause. “Ok, time’s up–why the delay?” I should know better than to expect an immediate answer…it’s not his way. “Well,” he said, “I was just thinking there’s always room for improvement, so I was trying […]