Healthy Marriage Habits: Challenge 1

What driver's ed taught me about marriage

It is impossible to love someone perfectly. Harder yet to love “til death do us part.” The habits that couples develop have much to do with whether the marriage ends up “for better or for worse.” This is the first installation of monthly challenges that will help create healthy habits in your marriage. Many troubled […]

How to Ask For Change In Marriage

“For better or worse” or some version, are the words most couples promise when they say “I do”. However, this doesn’t mean that we never ask for change in marriage. If iron sharpens iron, and we stretch to become a better version of ourselves through marriage, then something will be changing. Happily married couples often […]

Habits of Healthy Relationships

The Good Marriage Challenge

We are creatures of habit. Habits can be helpful.  Creating a morning routine can shave time off your day when you don’t have to think about what comes next. Some habits evolve out of laziness–like leaving dirty clothes wherever they fall, to be picked up only when you run out of clean underwear. Lazy habits […]

The importance of time alone together

Getting back to just the two of you

Sometimes you CAN judge a book by it’s cover. This one, tattered from years of rereading, was a gift I have treasured for 30 years. Some may only know of Charles Lindbergh, the famous aviator. However, his wife, Anne Morrow Lindbergh, was a gifted writer. This little book, written on a two week retreat in […]

How To Have a SMART Marriage, Starting Today

The miracle question that will change your focus

“Hey, honey, how would you rate our marriage, on a scale of 1-10?” I asked as we were hiking. Long pause. “Ok, time’s up–why the delay?” I should know better than to expect an immediate answer…it’s not his way. “Well,” he said, “I was just thinking there’s always room for improvement, so I was trying […]

The State of Your Union

12 practical ideas for improving your marriage

Continuing on the theme of resolutions/goals, (click here for the post) I have a question for those of you that are married.  How would you rate the “state of your Union” on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being “couldn’t be any better”? I recently asked my guy of 36 years, and there was a long pause. […]