What Real Partnership In Marriage Can Look Like

A rainbow will always stop me in my tracks—but a double rainbow—that is something special. A real partnership in marriage can be equally special and rare. Unexpected gifts I met a young couple recently for breakfast to talk about ways to encourage marriages. He serves on a church staff, she’s a gifted artist, and together […]

Being Married Means More of This

Healthy Marriage Habits, Challenge 2

What is one of the best memories you have from the time you and your spouse were dating? Give yourself time to sit with that memory…yes, right now! What were you wearing? What were you doing together? Best of all, what did you FEEL? I really want you to capture that before you skim through […]

Healthy Marriage Habits: Challenge 1

What driver's ed taught me about marriage

It is impossible to love someone perfectly. Harder yet to love “til death do us part.” The habits that couples develop have much to do with whether the marriage ends up “for better or for worse.” This is the first installation of monthly challenges that will help create healthy habits in your marriage. Many troubled […]

How to Ask For Change In Marriage

“For better or worse” or some version, are the words most couples promise when they say “I do”. However, this doesn’t mean that we never ask for change in marriage. If iron sharpens iron, and we stretch to become a better version of ourselves through marriage, then something will be changing. Happily married couples often […]

Habits of Healthy Relationships

The Good Marriage Challenge

We are creatures of habit. Habits can be helpful.  Creating a morning routine can shave time off your day when you don’t have to think about what comes next. Some habits evolve out of laziness–like leaving dirty clothes wherever they fall, to be picked up only when you run out of clean underwear. Lazy habits […]

Finding What We’re Looking For

Guest post by Sarah Sandifer, On (Re)Finding connection in marriage

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We’re standing in the kitchen on a Tuesday, it’s a small kitchen, not much room to move around, and we are putting away our dishes. He’s grabbing mugs and spatulas as I’m grabbing bowls and forks and we move around each other as we find a place for everything and everything in its place. Stepping […]

How To Create A Safe Zone For Your Marriage

The tension in the room was so thick we could hardly breathe. Hand grenades of words had been launched, and these dear friends came to us in search of a cease fire. We sat around the table, trying to navigate the hidden land mines, leftovers from their previous marriages. They had been married less than […]

How To Love Your Spouse Through Depression

Guest post by Christine M. Chappell

My eyes were as wet as the dishes I was washing. The clouds of tears didn’t stop me from scrubbing as hard as I could, hoping somehow the clean of the sink might also mean the clean of my bleeding broken heart. I was at the bottom of a two-week low—a particularly deep cycle of […]