Love Is Not Enough

The one question that will change the focus of your marriage

Falling in love is not hard…but love is not enough to keep a marriage healthy. Some people learn that truth, and sear it in their mind. Others ink it into their skin, where it will be a constant reminder. And if I could help couples understand that you can love someone, but not be compatible, […]

Their music is phenomenal…here’s a short clip talking about their marriage.

Abner–“relationship’s about communication. There’s something at the end of the day we’re fighting for. There’s going to be disagreements, just like in songwriting. But at the end of the day we’re on the same team for a greater good and a greater purpose.”

I’m glad you’re here.

What is most important to you? MOST people would say their relationships–spouse, children, friends, family–are far more important than their job or social commitments.  Yet somehow Life can take over, and these very relationships get neglected. Healthy relationships take some work. Sometimes it can be hard and messy. Sometimes we feel like giving up. And […]

A “Good” Good-Bye

The Power of Review Before Moving On

Here we are on the verge of a new year, and like many, I find myself looking forward to some new goals, habits and accomplishments I want to see in 2017. Tempted to launch into my typical list making mode, I caught myself this year, and took a little different approach. I took the time […]

Two Things to Remember When Marriage is Hard

Marriage is that relationship that becomes comfortable over time, like your favorite pair of jeans or shoes that are broken in just so. With that comfort, though, is an alternate reality–familiarity can breed contempt. The things we say to our spouse out of anger or frustration sometimes are things we would NEVER say to a […]

My Five Husbands

I have been married to at least 5 different men, and loved each one more than the last. Now, before you compare me to Elizabeth Taylor…let me just clarify…I have only been married once, but he has evolved, as have I, over the course of 36 years. Idealistic seminarian The first man was the idealistic […]

The Secret to Your Man’s Heart

We sat across from each other at our favorite lunch spot, happy to have a little face time, just the two of us. Three kids with multiple schedules and each of us running our own businesses left little time for uninterrupted conversation in those days. I thought it was just any old lunch, but this day proved […]

For the newlyweds (What I wish we’d known then)

There’s something wistful about seeing newly weds. Their relationship is fresh and new–their whole future is before them.  I wouldn’t go back to those days, but I do wish we had known some things that we learned the hard way. It’s hard to give advice to engaged or newly married couples, because they are convinced […]

Shine Some Light on People Loving Their Neighbor

How to combat the darkness of our time

Enough. I can’t handle one more piece of horrific, senseless killing. Getting in the car yesterday to go to yoga, I was confronted with the news of the carnage in Nice, France.  So many innocent lives lost–their light extinguished– in what seem to be never ending stories of rape, kidnapping, murder, children sold as sex […]