Healthy communication which allows for management of conflict (most conflicts are never “solved, they are managed) while maintaining respect and fondness for each other is the key to a lasting relationship. Acquiring basic communication tools as a foundation is one of the primary purposes for this website. Essential to all good communication is empathy, which is understanding each other’s personality types, needs, communication styles, and behavioral tendencies.

You fell in love with your partner for many reasons. At some point, conflict emerges when we discover that our partner doesn’t see the world exactly as we do. Learning what makes each of you different and unique, and appreciating those differences, can be a game changer.

Using well validated assessments can accelerate the process of knowing our own and our partner’s personality styles. UNDERSTANDING our differences allows us to forge better ways to communicate and support each other. Instead of labeling the other as “wrong”, we can begin to appreciate and respect our differences.

For centuries, people have been curious about what makes people tick, and have formulated various systems for understanding human personality.

There are lots of assessments available, some free, some that are just silly. The human personality is much too complex to be thoroughly defined by any one system. I have personally taken several (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, Strengths Finder, Enneagram) and found some benefit from each one.

But for my work with couples, I have found this short assessment provided through TTI (Target Training International) to be a great starting place. I have used it in business and coaching for about 10 years. I like that while it is fairly easy to grasp the concepts, it is robust in information that is useful to the individual and their interpersonal interactions.

I hear that sometimes, and you are entitled to your opinion. However, there are studies that support validation (does it measure what it says it measures) and reliability (can the same results be repeated) of this assessment and corresponding report. It’s not magic, but most who take it are surprised by the accuracy of the descriptions in the report.

NO! This does not assess pathology—it’s descriptive. There’s no good or bad style, but once we become aware of the fact that our way of seeing the world ISN’T just like everyone else, it’s both affirming, and challenging. Affirming that there is a reason for certain drives or patterns. Challenging in that once we are aware of certain tendencies, we have the option to grow and develop areas that may be limiting us.

When you click the button to take the assessment, you will be scheduling the feedback session. 

After payment and scheduling, you will receive a confirmation email with your assessment link.

If you have any questions prior to purchasing this option, please send me an email. I’ll do my best to get back to you as soon as I can.